This post is sponsored by Everywhere Agency on behalf of OshKosh B’gosh; however, all thoughts and opinions expressed are my own.
This week coming will be hard on my momma heart. I can't even begin to explain all the feelings I am experiencing right now as I am saying goodbye to my little girl as she starts Pre-K soon. I am a nervous wreck here as I wonder if she'll be scared or cry the moment she gets on the bus. She has been with me since day one, my little "girlfriend/bestie" as I like to call her. Never before have I let her go away for so many hours with anyone but family. I have been selfish in my own ways for not letting go any sooner. I admit I didn't even enroll her in a mom's day out program or any daycare throughout these years. However she is a social butterfly and so outgoing when it comes to meeting new people and making friends anywhere she goes. And at the same time I know she is in need of grasping and exploring more from this world and building her learning skills. Learning to socialize and interact with other children her age is not something I can give her here at home. So I am ready to let go and prepare myself and her for our first week of school. My 4 year old going on 5 soon is growing up so fast!
And not just Elyse, but also Ryan as he heads Back to School and starts 2nd grade. You would think by now I would be a pro at this Back to School thing and not let myself get over emotional but sometimes we as moms can't help it. As Ryan starts a new school year he has been more easier to transition back to a set routine. This summer he sure took advantage of staying up way too late for a child his age since he was away with his grandparents. The lack of rules and discipline he received as he was spoiled by his grandma made it hard at first for us to get him back on track to a more smooth routine.
So I am sharing with you 5 easy tips to get your children excited and ready for Back to School. For us moms we need as much help to make our lives less stressful. And I am all for that to prepare for the school year.
- START A BEDTIME ROUTINE: The weeks and the days leading to the first day of school can be crucial but a strict structured bedtime is much needed for the parent and the child. Children need to feel well rested and energized for the next day ahead, after all they are spending more than 8 hours at school. Give them something to look forward to for bedtime, like story time. Reading is so important for your children and as a requirement for my son we apply his 20 minutes of reading everyday before he goes to sleep. I find it to calm him and sets the relaxing tone that it is time for bed.
- BE POSITIVE: Remember to point out the great things about going back to school. For my son it was reminding him about his old friends who he has not seen all summer and for my daughter it was the thought of meeting new classmates and making new friends her age. She is home with two boy brothers and lately she is been asking for a sister. Knowing she'll have classmates who are girls her age gets her super excited.
- VISIT THE SCHOOL AND ATTEND MEET THE TEACHER: This is the best way to get your child familiar with their new surroundings. I am so glad we attended meet the teacher so my daughter could get more familiar with the school, the hallways, where her classroom will be located, and who her teacher will be. We were completely surprised to find out she'll be with Ryan's formal Pre-K teacher. So yessss for a familiar face and to someone she is already comfortable with.
- PRACTICE: Best thing to do is go over what their first day of school will be like. Talk to your child and ask them what they think their day will be like, how do they picture it to be. Explain how school routines work, how you have rules to follow. Ask your child if they'll prefer a home lunch or a school lunch, or do they want to ride the bus or prefer for you to take them. Make sure to compromise on what can work best for you ALL.
- MAKE IT EXCITING: I have learned there are different ways to get your children excited for school and so far my best tip is doing back to school shopping together. My son gets so excited about shopping for his backpack every year and my daughter was no exception to this. They had so much fun picking out their own backpacks. Even if I didn't like the colors or pattern I decided to let them choose what they liked most. It brings in a sense of independence and boost their self esteem into believing they are ready to start the school year. Not to mention letting them pick out their own shoes and clothes. It is a good distraction and it helped my daughter feel less scared. We went back to school shopping at our local OshKosh B'gosh. With so many options of mix and match leggings for girls and casual tees for boys and girls. Giving them many options to express themselves and their style while still being comfortable in what they wear. With all deals OshKosh has I got them covered for the entire month. I even shopped for my toddler with their new line of graphic tees, so he would join in on the fun with his older siblings.
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Let me know what you find as you back to school shop in the comments below, as always I love to read what you guys think. I know packing their backpacks on their first day will be bittersweet for sure but it feels good sending them in style!
Last night was hard. These past weeks alone have been stressful and trying to be both a stay at home and a working mom at the same time have gotten the best of me. I started to feel I was not doing my best at home with my kids when they needed me. And I certainly haven't been given my all to my job either, as I now realized they want more of me too. I can't dedicate my ALL to one thing. After working early these past few days I was starting to feel defeated. I was lacking "me time" and I had become overwhelmed. I was tired. I was sleep-deprived. I wanted a clean home. I wanted to not have any chores. I wanted zero mom responsibilities.
I began screaming at my kids because their rooms were not clean. It was late already. There was a pile of laundry in my daughter's room that needed to be folded and put away. My downstairs was a mess as they left all the toys scattered from the living room to the dining room. My oldest was complaining he couldn't sleep because the youngest was throwing the biggest tantrum and crying his eyes out. He was screaming at the top of his lungs because he wanted to watch Moana and not go to bed yet. They were testing my limits for sure. I asked my husband for help because I was feeling weak and just over it which he quickly ignored. And that was my breaking point...
I just wanted to be alone. I started to think life without kids is better.
If you asked me 10 years ago if I wanted to be a mother I would instantly tell you yes. Last night I would scream out to you NO.
I had a coworker asked me how are all my kids doing and how do I handle life with all three. My reply was, "It gets crazy, but I'm surviving."
She is single and enjoying her youth by traveling and meeting new people as she goes. What possible struggles could she have going on at home.. none I thought. And a part of me envied her a little.
Because I thought life without kids is better.
So last night I walked away from it all and closed my door and locked myself in the bathroom. I cried it all out. Yes I let it all out. Alone. It all got to me and I didn't know how to handle it but to simply just cry.
So much went through my mind and I started thinking why life without kids is better.
The luxury of going where I please at any time without having children to worry about. The thought of waking up when I want to and go to bed early because there is no one I need to attend to. Being able to finish school without worrying about childcare and the ridiculous cost while I am gone all day, pursue my career full time, or simply travel like the rest of the people my age have. I missed my spontaneous date nights with my husband. I missed when we didn't argue or I didn't yell at him about absurd dumb things like why he didn't throw away the dirty diaper lying on the floor or whose turn it is to bathe the kids. I just wanted that laid-back quality time we once had alone.
Overall the FREEDOM.
So much went through my head. I was reminded that parenting is not black and white. That every mother with children at some point has felt like this at their most fragile state. I have realized having children is a choice, not something that inevitably happen to me without my consent.
I don't have all the answers. I am not perfect. My patience sometimes isn't the best as I wish it could be. And I often find myself crying like I did last night. As I am still learning everyday as I go. I am imperfect in my own ways with my own desires and disappointments.
And after being alone for some time I began to feel better. I wiped my tears and open the door. I went to my son's room and found my daughter sleeping in her brother's bed. Next to her on the other side of the room Luke was sleeping in his crib tucked in. He looked so peaceful and I immediately felt a gush of guilt through my body. How could I want a life without him. I heard a small whisper that said, "I Love you Mommy", it was my oldest Ryan who was still awake. I went on to hug him and told him how I was sorry for yelling at him earlier. It was just me and him awake and the house was quiet and that was exactly what I wanted all along... except it now felt empty.
That is the opposite of what I expected to feel. So I squeezed him tightly and hugged my son one more time as I kissed him goodnight.
And I was more certain than ever that my life with my children is so much better.
They give me a daily purpose everyday. Their warm smiles lighten up my day.
I have a place where I belong, a place I call home, tiny little humans that I created who love and need me, I have experienced the meaning of true love. I have found a new perspective on the small things in life that I took for granted once. In many ways children make you grow up and want more in life. I now know what matters and that is building my family.
It's a beautiful thing to have and definitely what many spend years trying to find.
So today I choose to look at all the positive and focus on all the happiness motherhood has brought me. It has changed my life for the better regardless of what I have sacrificed over the years.
life with my children is so much better.
Someday my kids won't need me anymore. There won't be a constant chatter in the background, there won't be little people calling out "mama" every five minutes, there won't be that undying never ending affection that comes along when they wake you up first thing in the morning. But I want to have their comfort and trust forever. I want to look back at their childhood and I want to remember the good moments. I don't want to regret anything I did or said. I am grateful for the good and the bad.
I have my highs and lows, imaging does not make me a bad mother.
I am human after all.
